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A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on
what they look for in a potential victim and here are some
interesting facts :

1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is
hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a
ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed.
They are also likely to go aftera woman with long hair . Women with
short hair are not common targets.

2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for
women who's clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry
scissors around specifically to cut clothing.

3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through
their purse or doing other activities while walking because they
are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning,
between 5:00 a.m. and 8:30 a.m.

5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is grocery
store parking lots. Number two is office parking lots/garages .
Number three is public restrooms.

6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a
woman and quickly move her to another location where they don't have
to worry about getting caught.

7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year
sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.

8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged
because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going
after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming

9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,
or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their
hands.

Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the
attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these
guys you're not worth it.

10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is
following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an
elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a
question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: "I can't
believe it is so cold out here", "we're in for a bad winter." Now
you've seen their face and could identify them in a line-up; you
lose appeal as a target.

11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of
you and yell STOP or STAY BACK ! Most of the rapists this man talked
to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she
would not be afraid to fight back . Again, they are looking for an
EASY target.

12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate
of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yell I HAVE PEPPER
Spray and holding it out will be a deterrent.

13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you
can by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from
behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm (between the elbow
and armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh VERY VERY HARD. One
woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm
pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she
broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed
stitches.

Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it;
it hurts.

14) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN. I know from a
particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts
it is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy
and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told
our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of
trouble. Start causing trouble, and he's out of there.

15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two
fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure
pushing down on them as possible . The instructor did it to me
without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both
knuckles cracked audibly.

16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware
of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you
see any odd behavior,don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!!

You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse
if the guy really was trouble